Which Wolf Are You Feeding?

The Fight of Two Wolves Within You

An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life:

“A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.

”It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil–he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.”

He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you–and inside every other person, too.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf will win?”

The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”

What wolf are you feeding?

Our thoughts can be our own worst enemy, or are biggest advocate.  How we channel our thoughts effects the trajectory of our lives.  It is inevitable that both “wolves” will always be a part of our journey, however, we have the power to choose which one wins minute by minute, day by day, one small victory at a time.

The evil wolf allows negative thoughts in that add up over time to where you no longer realize you are living in your own self-made world of pity, sorrow, skepticism.  You have fed into the negative talk for so long that it has now become a part of who you are and maybe even how you are perceived.  This wolf is the easiest to feed.  It’s easy to slip into negative self-talk.  It’s even easier to complain, gossip, brush-off, ignore, or give-up.  Even the negativity that you brush off as joking is feeding into the evil.

Negativity breeds negativity.

But the second wolf?  That second wolf is full of promise.  It’s also full of work.  And THAT my friends, is where the magic resides.   The second wolf requires patience, commitment, tenacity, grit, perseverance, trust.  It feeds on learning, sharing, praising and the forming of habits.

The second wolf brings forth a sense of accomplishment, pride… peace even.

What’s that cliche phrase?  Nothing worth having comes easy.  You could apply it to this evil versus good wolf scenario.   Take the road with the challenge for the end result is worth more than its weight.  Feed the good wolf.  Feed the wolf that reaps the most benefit.


But what if I told you to feed both.

If you read into the Cherokee story, the alternative resolution is “if you feed them both, they both win.”

Think on that for a moment.


Both wolves have characteristics necessary to life.  The evil wolf provides fearlessness, courage and strong-will.   The good wolf provides reason, clarity, courage, longevity.  When paired together they are powerful.

It is up to us how we manage our thoughts and how we provide an avenue for both wolves to co-exist. Mental clarity, self-awareness and confidence resides in the mind over matter.

“How you choose to interact with the opposing forces within you will determine your life. Starve one or the other or guide them both.”




Professional Development | The Awkward Videos

Part of running my own fitness business allows me to take on an active role in some incredible professional development opportunities.

Usually the words professional development will elicit a less than enthusiastic response from me.   However, when passionate about a subject, a business and the direction it is going, the opportunity to take part in PD is far more appealing.

So, this little post is just a chance for me to poke fun at myself.   I had to create a video presentation for a team of around 40 individuals on a topic.   And then I had to upload it to YouTube.

I was in NO way going to take multiple shots of this.

I wanted it to be real.



Totally 100% me.

So, I did it.  And I posted my first YouTube video as part of this Professional Development seminar.

A few observations:

1. I use my hands a lot.

2. I said I work for a University.

Uh…. since when?  Try Community College, but whatever.

I also said I manage people.   Direct reports: 1.  Indirect reports: 33.  I am not going to explain what this means since I try to keep my FT professional life separate, however, if you work with me, you totally get what I am talking about.

3. Still shots of the video are hysterical.



So, seriously.  This professional development opportunity was actually an assignment.   This assignment turned into so much more for me.

You gotta laugh at yourself.  Learn about yourself.  Know your quirks.

And if you want to see this video?  Tough.  I am not giving it to ya.

Find it yourself.  

Peace out, girlscouts.